Have you ever given your kids a present or done something for them, only for them to not react with the happiness you expected? When your children don’t respond to your love gestures in the way you expect, the reasons may not be very clear. If you have more than one child, you may discover that what is important to one has little meaning to another. In this article, we’ll explore the concept of love languages and how to speak your child’s in a way that will make them truly feel important and cherished.
Dr. Gary Chapman popularized the notion of love languages, which states that children (and adults) express and receive love in five distinct ways. We all know that each kid is unique and that what works for one child may not work for another, but what is less evident is that what expresses love to one child may not be perceived in the same manner by another. According to Chapman, we all have one main love language — the method that best expresses love to us. Let’s get into the five languages of love….
The Five Love Languages:
#1 – Physical Touch
One of the five love languages is physical contact, which relates to expressing and receiving affection through touch, physical proximity, and other types of physical affection. Kissing or hugging, or holding hands are all examples of physical contact love language.
For your child, physical touch can be a simple gesture. A high-five when he is done eating, a little hug when he falls, or even a kiss on the forehead before bed. It does not need to be for hours.
#2 – Words
Words are powerful this is known. Any verbal or written comments that affirm, support, uplift, and positively sympathize with your kids are referred to as affirmative words, which is recognized as powerful love language.
Here are some examples;
– I love you.
– You are special to me.
– I am proud of you.
– Good job.
#3 – Quality Time
Parents are very busy, but spending some quality time with our children is essential. Put down the phone, turn off the laptop and focus on your children. They will feel loved and important to you. It will be some ‘we’ time where they will not feel like you are making time for them but rather that this is their time.
These days, children are also stuck to their tablets, making it difficult to spend time with them, but it is important to go out at the park or for lunch.
#4 – Gifts
Sometimes your kids will associate giving and receiving gifts with love. With a child, you do not need to wait on special occasions to offer a gift, and on top of that, it does not need to be expensive. While going out to the supermarket, bringing a chocolate bar will bring them joy.
It does not matter if the gift is expensive; it does have to be significant. It’s the sentiment behind the present, the expression of love and affection. Pay attention to them, what they say or what they love, then go that way.
#5 – Acts Of Service
Acts of Service is a language that entails doing something for your kids that you know they would appreciate. This category is mostly how much you contribute to their life. Kids love when you do things for them; they love when you get involved, for example, in their school projects or attending their football matches, whenever you cook their favourite meal, or even when you help them with their homework.
As you emphasize your child’s love language, you should notice that they respond more to a particular language. But keep in mind that, while one manner may be very meaningful to them, we must nevertheless show them our love in all five ways. Now that you’ve read this article, be sure to comment down below with which of the five is your child’s primary love language and how they express it.